Grief Is Not Linear
Tomorrow March 13, 2018 will mark ten years that our precious daughter Sara Kimberlee transitioned from body to spirit. I find myself reflecting on where the past ten years have gone?
Grief is such a dichotomy that at times it feels like these past ten years slipped by in but a blink. Not in the sense of it being effortless but rather in a state of time standing still or like being frozen in time. Oddly & simultaneously our loss has felt like a thousand-year life sentence of slowly trudging through deep snow wondering how much longer do I have to do this? This is the nature of grief, it can be one or the other and it can be both at the same time. But here’s the catch there is another layer to grief. In fact there’s many layers, that are filled with a deeper awareness and beauty.
I’ve learned that grief is multi- dimensional. It’s not only those feeling of being frozen in time and trudging through a life sentence. The sadness and pain of grief demand to be felt and must be experienced fully without being denied or covered up. Once you allow the ugliness and hurt of the experience, the beauty and love that has always been there is revealed to you.
The beauty of grief reveals itself in the love. There is an undeniable tremendous flow of love and gratitude that I feel for and from Sara. I can say for certain that love never dies, it continues and extends itself and grows stronger as time goes on.
Grief is anything but linear and it is definitely not guided by a timeline. It is the experience of having your life shattered into a thousand pieces so that you doubt your very existence. Yet it is also the experience of being ten years later and you’re still here and you’re still growing from this journey. You survived by drawing on every shred of strength you have, coupled with the undeniable love the universe sends you through your friends (Nelda, Lori & Geraldine) and family. Not-to mention those complete strangers (Joanne B.) that pop into your life and show you the way through the darkness and into the light.
I’m most proud that I’ve made it through these ten years with my marriage & family in tact. It has not been an easy 10 years for any one of us in our family, this journey through grief has not been just mine. I give all the credit to my husband, Sara’s father Kim and to our children Kirstin and Sean and his wife Robyn. Their love and support is the source of all my strength. My darling grandsons Carson and Oliver give me hope and anticipation for the future.
Yes today I am very sad and that’s ok because today also my heart overflows with an abundance of love and gratitude for a shared 23.5 glorious years on earth with Sara.
I wish you all the same peace that I wish for myself . Namaste’
Owner of The Mindful Spirit - Restorative Energy Healing, Loralee is a retired Registered Social Worker, Certified Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master/Teacher, Meditation Instructor, and Author of A New Normal - A Grieving Mother's Journey From Loss to Healing available for purchase through:
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About Loralee J Scobie
For over 2 decades, Loralee Scobie has been professionally working with energy and helping women (and men) embrace the power of their own being. Loralee started her career as a registered social worker but always knew through her own childhood experiences with spirit that we are all more powerful than we know.
As a Reiki Master/teacher Loralee offers training in Reiki (Japanese healing art) and in meditation. Loralee is a firm believer to be an authentic teacher of Reiki one must work with Reiki daily (either on self or others), for the Reiki energy is the true teacher. In her full-time practice Scobie offers in person and distance (via facetime or zoom) treatments on demand.
Loralee believes that meditation is the foundation to all spiritual practices and should be incorporated into ones’ daily routine. She offers group training online and in person, where she teaches not only how to meditate, but how to create your own meditation practice. Loralee also provides a unique service where she will compose/record a personal meditation just for you, relevant to what you are working on healing in your life.
As a certified hypnotherapist Loralee has helped many clients young and older on how to use hypnotherapy to overcome obstacles in this lifetime. These sessions can be shared either in person or on zoom/facetime.
Loralee is the published author of her first book titled A New Normal-A Grieving Mother’s Journey from Loss to Healing. In this narrative Scobie shares what it took to move her through her grief and to go on to live a life of purpose, following the death of her daughter. She also shares what is and isn’t helpful for grieving parents and how others can best support the bereaved. Loralee can be booked as a guest speaker and welcomes the opportunity to read from her book and sign copies.
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